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Mother Jones, RN
09-27-2007, 04:03 PM
I'll be frank, working for my boss is like working for Ghengis Kahn. She's a little storm troop, but instead of wearing boots, she wears high heel shoes. I'm having a really hard time dealing with her right now, and I wanted to know how other people deal with their impossible boss.


:party:

Julie
09-28-2007, 05:05 PM
Luckily I have a great boss, but I know how awful the kind of person you describe can be. I think that the main thing is not to rise to the bait of these people, to be pleasant and courteous and to give little reason for them to complain. Trouble is I guess they still do.

Any other ideas anyone?

jojodow
09-28-2007, 09:36 PM
I'm sorry, I'm like Julie, I have a great boss now and had a great one before.

Now before I left the hospital we had an assistant-type clinical manager who was a terrible floor nurse and tried to pull the a Nazi act with our ways of doing things.:hmpf:

Everybody kind of humored her to keep the peace but then went on doing things the way we always did (Things that actually worked for our unit....the things she wanted us to do would only work if our unit had smaller patient-nurse ratios...like 3 to 1).

She didn't say anything...of course she was never actually on the unit to supervise anyway. :shot:

Julie
09-29-2007, 04:19 AM
Maybe what Jodi says is the key to this. People who act in this way do it becasue they aren't confident in their own ability either as a clinician or a manager. I guess as employees we only make things worse if we play into the hands of the behaviour and just let them get away with it.

KimRN
09-30-2007, 11:15 AM
I'll be frank, working for my boss is like working for Ghengis Kahn. She's a little storm troop, but instead of wearing boots, she wears high heel shoes. I'm having a really hard time dealing with her right now, and I wanted to know how other people deal with their impossible boss.


:party:

High heels is psych??? I did that once, and that was the night a patient got confused and ran out the fire exit and onto the roof. True story!

My boss isn't impossible, I just never see her unless she comes in before the night shift is over. We sort of manage ourselves; Most of us are veteran nurses of over 20 years so we don't need much managing.

I've had some doozies, though.

Marachne
09-30-2007, 04:17 PM
The last time I had an impossible boss, I quit. She was crazy, literally -- had a manic break after going on a week-long silent medication retreat. None of us knew she was bipolar before that. She stayed home from work for only one day and then came back to work, really too soon and, as far as I was concerned, putting her patients in danger (she is a chiropractor/acupuncturist).

Anyway, after getting so depressed that I was having SI, I realized I was in a totally toxic environment and had to leave, even though I had no job, no prospects, and limited skills.

It was the best decision I ever made. Besides making me happy and healthy, it was what led to me going back to school and getting my RN!

Polaris
09-30-2007, 07:01 PM
You could always try taking in a liason and meeting with her. Then you'd have a witness. Start off with something like "I feel as if there is a great deal of tension (or whatever) between us and I'd like to make a commitment to resolve that. I'm hoping you can make the same commitment to me so we can build a professional nursing team on our unit."

That may open up the door to a conversation where you can either get her on your side or at least find out why she's such a terror and whether it's worth it for you to stay.

Working for a nasty boss is not worth it, I think. But maybe you can turn things around.

Good luck!

geenaRN
09-30-2007, 07:57 PM
I say prank her. Fill her office with those tree shaped air fresheners.

:whistle:

Polaris
09-30-2007, 07:59 PM
I say prank her. Fill her office with those tree shaped air fresheners.

:whistle:

:highfive::highfive::highfive:


LOVE IT! That's a good one. Will have to add that to my recipe list.

jojodow
10-01-2007, 09:59 PM
Speaking of pranks... I had one co-nurse that actually bought a Blow Up doll (you know...the kind made for...um...men to ...um..You know)
First she pranked the charge nurse. She put it in an empty patient bed and then went to the station to ask what that unannounced patient was doin in there. The Charge died laughing when she walked in the room.

And to show you how cool my former boss was...same nurse put same doll in her office chair to greet her one morning. She thought it was hilarious too.

We just worked in the kind a place where an occasional hearty laugh is very much appreciated.

Burnout Hag RN
10-11-2007, 06:45 PM
High heels is psych??? I did that once, and that was the night a patient got confused and ran out the fire exit and onto the roof. True story!

My boss isn't impossible, I just never see her unless she comes in before the night shift is over. We sort of manage ourselves; Most of us are veteran nurses of over 20 years so we don't need much managing.

I've had some doozies, though.
Explain exactly what it is about her that bugs you other than the heels ????

Burnout Hag RN
10-11-2007, 06:49 PM
Explain what she does that bugs you other than the heels

Mother Jones, RN
10-11-2007, 10:43 PM
My boss will not answer the phone at the nurses station "because it's not her job."

My boss refuses to become involved on the unit during a patient emergency because "it's not her job."

My boss won't learn how to use the computer so she can pass meds because "it's not her job."

My boss refuses to come in on the weekend to work when we have no staff because... well, you get my point.


And I hate her freakin' high heel shoes :beer:

geenaRN
10-11-2007, 11:47 PM
Hmmm, gosh... wouldn't staffing the unit really actually be her job, though?

Sounds like a real winner. I'm still advocating for lots of pranks to bring her down a few notches.

Hide her computer keyboard and make her go on a scavenger hunt for it. You know, one clue leads to another!

Take everything out of one of her drawers and fill it with water to the very tippy top. Put a rubber ducky in it. Close carefully!

If your med floors in your hospital use isolyzer to solidify liquid, uh, waste, take some, mix in some hot chocolate, corn and peas from the cafeteria, and stick it in a bedpan where she'll find it first thing in the morning.

Have flowers delivered to her without a card. Once a month, on the same day. It'll drive her batty.

No, none of these are incredibly mature I admit, but I have been a party to each and every one at some point or another.

'Course, the object of such pranks usually had a sense of humor. :santaclaus:

Mother Jones, RN
10-12-2007, 12:36 AM
I really like the idea of hiding her keyboard......:rock:

Burnout Hag RN
10-12-2007, 03:33 PM
I would definitely discuss with her how she is not fostering teamwork on her unit and how you have "overheard" team members questionong her abilities. If that doesn't work then file a complaint singed by others on the unit and submit it to her supervisor. She sounds like a piece of shi_.

MyOwnWoman
10-13-2007, 01:32 AM
My boss will not answer the phone at the nurses station "because it's not her job."

My boss refuses to become involved on the unit during a patient emergency because "it's not her job."

My boss won't learn how to use the computer so she can pass meds because "it's not her job."

My boss refuses to come in on the weekend to work when we have no staff because... well, you get my point.


And I hate her freakin' high heel shoes :beer:


And just think.........she gets paid more than you:aetsch:

Gretchen
10-19-2007, 01:02 AM
You could always try taking in a liason and meeting with her. Then you'd have a witness. Start off with something like "I feel as if there is a great deal of tension (or whatever) between us and I'd like to make a commitment to resolve that. I'm hoping you can make the same commitment to me so we can build a professional nursing team on our unit."
That may open up the door to a conversation where you can either get her on your side or at least find out why she's such a terror and whether it's worth it for you to stay. Working for a nasty boss is not worth it, I think. But maybe you can turn things around.
Good luck!

Wait! Don't!
Sadly, that kind of meeting is the kiss of death. She is in a management position, which means that the administration of your hospital has endorsed her. As much as we would like to believe that meeting with her will resolve things, it will only put you in a position of intense vulnerability. Pop psychology and other ill-advised sources will encourage you to meet with her supervisor, and that would be detrimental to your wellbeing. The sad truth is that you can not change someone's personality (or their DNA) without years of therapy. And since you are not in a position to provide therapy to your boss, your best bet is to decide if you can live with the current situation. If you can, then stay. If you can't, then go. But never, never, never try to change your boss by confronting their behavior in front of a witness, or worse, involving their supervisor.

Gretchen