View Full Version : Why am I here?

12-20-2008, 07:15 PM
:shot:When I left high school over 20 years ago, my goal was to be a RN. That is before I got married and had children. Now two kids, tow exhusbands and 10 years of entrepreneurship later I am not sure. The problem is I have never done anything successfully for me! I like helping people. My aim was to be a midwife but I know I will not do that.

Ok guys I am tired and indecisive at this point. My business I started 10 years ago isn't working out anymore. Now I don't have a stable way of supporting myself. Along time ago I attempted the nursing program and I spent 2 years of college just struggling with math. Eventually I got better, I brought a (F) up to a ( D). Huh. I couldn't believe it. However, allof my other grades were (A's) & ( B's). So I couldn't be that stupid. It never made sense to me, a + z= what? Just dumb to me. But it kept me from entering the nursing program. In Georgia there is a 2 year associates in nursing program now. I was thinking of trying again.

my goal is to never struggling looking for work again. Often times I find myself applying for low paying jobs and it hurts! I have a family to support. I don't have the funds to start up my business again.

Ultimately I know the decision is mine. But any input would be appreciated. If I ever get married again I don't want to ever, ever depend on a man. Sorry for any man that reads this. I am not male bashing here. Ok...sorry. I've just had a rough life with marriage and kids.


Mr Ian
12-21-2008, 07:07 AM
Hi photonurse - and no offence taken.

One particular thing you wrote stood out:

"Ok guys I am tired and indecisive at this point."

And I'm not sure if you're committed to anything right now - just testing the very edge of the waters and seeking out some answers.

If I may, I'll suggest three things:
1. No one else is going to make the right decision for you but if you're not happy with the choices you've made in the past - change the way you make them. Take a slightly different angle.

2. Set your targets by defining the important things in your life - such as income security, progression opportunities, what gives you job satisfaction, how much family/personal time do you want, etc?

3. By looking at things from a different perspective of outcomes rather than starting at the beginning and laying a pathway out, you can start at the end and lay a pathway backward - step by step. Where do you want to be in another 10 years? Then work backwards from there.

Whether or not nursing is a part of that remains to be decided.

12-22-2008, 04:09 AM
I agree with Mr Ian's suggestion for decsion making. Its kind of like deconstruting your perfect life. You find out what the components are and then try to gather them together in the right order to get the life you want. you will find some books around this subject in your local library. I went to school at 40yrs old to do my BSN, i was very very bad at math at school from age 7. I basically didn't understand that with math it is not "but why"? In my pre nursing prep course I learned with math things just are what they are, there are rules and you just rote learn them and learn what calculation goes with which type of problem. I got through that prehealth course ok which was a basic simple math foundation course and I actually finally understood the stuff at last. Give yourself another go if you decied you want to be a nurse but maybe hunt down a math course that can teach you how you learn best. good luck

12-22-2008, 06:37 PM
You might need to go back to basics with your maths. I went all the way through primary and secondary without learning how to use long division properly. A university lecturer ended up having to teach 15 of us how to do it, as we never learned properly.

It might be worth getting a book of the math rules. it is a small book that simply gives you basic rules in maths (how to add, multiply factions, long division, imaginary numbers, logarithms). And as previously stated you have to memories the rules first but it is the same in chemistry and physics. And if you are in trouble get some help, get a tutor, go see the lecturer (that is why they get payed).

We had 50y/o in our class doing their RN, with people working into their 70's and 80's you have a lot of time to get into midwifery.