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Old 09-04-2007, 01:37 AM
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Default My sister is Bipolar.

My younger sister is Bipolar. She's never been officially diagnosed but I and a few other HCP friends who have met her agree that she definitely is what could be considered Mildly Bipolar.

She gets manic for a few weeks out of a year, and then gets depressive for the few weeks following. This usually happens around her birthday which is coming next month. It's started early this year. She's called me the last 2 nights...too late. She rambles on and on about odd stuff here and there. Delusions of grandure worked in.
In the past she's gotten self destructive and makes stupid decisions in her manic phases. It's usually the time when she gets pregnant (She's had 5 children, only one in custody, 7 or 8 pregnancies...I've actually lost count) or she'll get in trouble with the law...public intoxication or something, she'll cheat on her current guy (This year is the first she is actually married) Lose her job by quitting or getting fired, or do something else that will turn all attention to her. (One year she pretended to take a whole bottle of Iron pills...which landed her an NG tube and an ER visit and turned out she only took like 5).

So My question is....what do I do? I know it's coming, I've spoken to her about seeing someone, getting some therapy. She doesn't have insurance and I don't think my brother in law knows the full scope of what she's capable of. The only reason I'm not concerned over my niece's welfare is because I know he's a responsible great guy and has strong family support on his side.
She actually agrees that she is probably Bipolar and needs help but doesn't have the means to get it.

It's been a good, quiet, drama free year for her but I just know this is the calm before the storm. I would love to hear some ideas from ya'll.
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Old 09-07-2007, 10:18 AM
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Bipolar is a rough disease. My niece is bipolar and has done some very destructive actions - including setting herself on fire. She is also diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, so it's a double whammy.

Boy, I wish I had the magic answer. The only thing I can suggest is that if she gets delusional or tries to harm herself, she should be put on a hold.

I know that has been tried before. My niece - and she is an adult - has tried so many different ways of self harm she is now a ward of the state, and yet to meet her, you would never know of the background.

The problem is always that the patient doesn't believe they are sick or doesn't comply with the medications.

Someone needs to sit your brother-in-law down and prepare him for what your sister is capable of. Forewarned is forearmed and perhaps he can catch the situation before it gets out of control.

I feel for you and your sister. This is one case where I know what it is like and it is terribly hard to deal with.

Keep us posted. There are a lot of folks with bipolar disorder who function well and are able to deal with the disease. The more help your sister has the better she will do and it sounds like she has support.

Keep us posted, and you know my email address if you need to vent!
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Old 09-08-2007, 02:45 PM
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Thanks Kim,

You're right, I do need to warn my BIL. I just need to find the right place and time.

I've convinced them to meet me at the TX Renaissance Festival (near them....I go every year...yes...dork here) It's near her birthday so maybe being there will help.

So Far so good, she's been quiet.


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Old 09-22-2007, 12:38 AM
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I was right. I knew the other shoe would drop.

My sister is in rehab right now. I didn't know she was an alcoholic but apparently was enough so that they took her in. She checked in a week after her husband took the baby and moved in with his parents. She got a DWI and it spiraled from there. I'm just now hearing about all of it after her best friend called me yesterday.

She's not allowed to have contact with the outside world right now.

I can only hope that they have someone there with a degree in something who can maybe hook her up with some mental health care resources. I'm calling to check in with my Brother in law tomorrow.
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Old 09-22-2007, 04:59 AM
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Really sorry to hear about your sister's problems. Sometimes when you have a hunch about something you so want to be wrong and it gives no pleasure to be proved right. Lets hope she is going to get the help she needs and that your brother in law is willing to stand by her.
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Old 09-22-2007, 09:16 AM
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Hmmm... maybe it is a blessing in disguise that she ended up in rehab because surely someone there will help her get to some resources. Meanwhile you can have a talk with your BIL and maybe help him to understand the situation better...

At any rate, my thoughts and prayers are with you... hang in there, Jodi.
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Old 09-22-2007, 04:42 PM
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Thanks!

My BIL isn't answering my calls. I'm hoping he calls back. When she gets out she has no place to go if he doesn't take her back. (I hear he packed up the apartment they had) I need to get through to find out the plan.

I'm torn between offering my place if she needs it or not. On one hand, she's my sis and I can't let her go homeless. On the other hand, I would be allowing her craziness into my house and near my daughter.She's lived with me before....it was ugly.

Hopefully BIL will take her back and they'll work things out.
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